February 27, 2019
February 27, 2019

By Farrah Gray

Recently, I was going through a stored file folder that contained unopened mail postmarked in 2005.  A variety of mail sent to me at a time I was wearing many hats. As a brother, son, grandson, entrepreneur and book author during a devastating period of time when my sister Greek was in the battle of her life fighting Leukemia.  

I began to read those letters that placed me squarely back in that period of time sitting by my sister’s bedside in the hospital.  Thinking about how Greek sacrificed much of her young years serving in the capacity of big sister and surrogate mother with love, and unflinching responsibility helping our mother raise me. I miss her dearly on the passing of the second Mother’s Day since her transition to the ancestors

With pride, I can say, I have no personal regrets about what I did or did not do to help my family provide for my sister’s quality of life while her survival was in the balance. I made the commitment to put a smile on her face, by contributing to her financial stability, supporting her mental and physical wellbeing when she became fragile, and vulnerable.

Paying lip service or overlooking her significant contribution to my care and character building was out of the question.  My commitment was to put a smile on her face, by contributing to her financial stability, supporting her mental and physical wellbeing during such a frightening time.

“Deye mon gen mon”, a Haitian proverb, says that “behind mountains there are more mountains.”

What drove the point home about the importance of honoring the source was reading this letter from an African-American woman retiree from Baltimore, MD., who was writing to invite me to speak to members of her book club in 2005.

Dear Mr. Gray,

I am a member of a book club here in Baltimore, Maryland. Many of our members are Retirees. This month I am responsible for presenting a book for discussion. I have chosen Reallionaire as the book I will be presenting. For my presentation, I would like to do something different.

As a member of society with longevity, I am seeing my retirement benefits slowly being eaten away by Medicare coverage, medication costs, insurance premiums, gasoline/fuel costs and daily living expenses. If I did not realize that God is my source, I would really be frightened as many of my constituents are.

We need young minds like you to come and talk with us about strategies for maintaining a life style of comfort that begins within and manifests in the outer in a tangible way. Too many of our seniors are poverty stricken. These are same people who use to live a comfortable life before retirement. This issue must be addressed. We always say that it takes a village to raise a child. I’m saying that the children who were raised by the people of the village should return the favor. We are just as strong and powerful as our weakest link. This issue could very well be addressed in your next book.

Please let me hear from you. I and the entire universe are proud of you. Your accomplishments are a testimony to the spirituality that been activated from within.

May you always be in the mystery!

Showering you with Blessings right now!



The letter reminded me of whenever Greek spoke; her words were always deeply rooted in wisdom and wrapped in a lighthearted, positive spirit. She impressed upon me the importance of being authentic, the necessity of keeping it real.

My business success has given me the opportunity to touch lives that I would have never touched. To see places I may have never seen except in my dreams. The tenets that were instilled in me by my mother, grandmother and sister led to my achievements as a businessman and philanthropist and eventually put me at the table with influential leaders who are changing the world one day at a time. I’m eternally grateful.

Give back to the female/fighter, woman/warrior, sister/solider, lady/leader and mother/teacher in the village that impacted your life. Your gift doesn’t have to be grand, but it needs to be from the heart. One of the greatest gifts you can give to those whose unselfish acts enriched your life is honoring them by honoring the source.

“Talk doesn’t cook the rice.” — Chinese proverb


Entrepreneur, philanthropist and bestselling author and award-winning fashion designer Farrah Gray has inspired millions around the world through motivational speaking, economic evangelism and the strength of his example. Gray is also an agent of social change. His partnerships include the Kauffman Foundation, the Floyd Mayweather Jr. Foundation, National Coalition for the Homeless and the National Marrow Donor Program, among others.