Do You Know The Difference Between Lust, Love And Infatuation? 12 Questions To Ask Yourself

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Lust, love and infatuation are three different things. It’s important to know the difference before you go all into a relationship.

Lust comes from a physical attraction. You want him only for sex so the relationship – if you can even all it that – tends to be short lived. It only provides physical satisfaction. There probably isn’t much of a conversation after you do the nasty and you don’t do much of anything else together.

Infatuation is an intense feeling for someone. You’re physically attracted to a dude and you view him through rose-colored glasses. It tends to become obsessive, especially when you think you are in love with him and view him in a way that is not true to life. You get caught up in your feelings, real or not, and caught up in the idea of being in love. You are probably going to end up disappointed and/or heartbroken because eventually it will become clear that he is not that in to you and only enjoys the attention and late night booty calls.

Love is a real feeling. It doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time to develop and it does so based on real time spent together doing quality things, making warm memories, caring for each other emotionally, mentally and physically, and building lives together.

So which one are you?

Here are some questions to ask yourself that will help you decide whether you are in love, infatuated or in lust. (Hint: it’s love or headed there if the answer is “yes.”)

• Do you feel good about who your man is?

• Would you still love him if he lost his material possessions?

• Do you feel good about the way you two resolve issues?

• Does the thought of him make you happy?

• Do you appreciate him, despite his quirks?

• Are you free to be your true self while around him?

• Are you confident he feels the same about you as you do about him?

• There is no one else I’d rather be with.

• Do you feel content and fulfilled?

• Is he the first one you want to call with good or bad news?

• Do you trust him, even when times aren’t so smooth?

• Do you want a future with him?

Some of these questions weigh more than other, but they are key to being in a relationship that is based on love and not lust or infatuation. Where do you stand?

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Sometime we mistake lust and infatuation for love, but there are signs that can help you tell the difference.