Long-distance relationships are never easy. The lack of physical contact along with the fact that you are so far apart can be daunting. But with technology making contact so much easier and better, long-distant romances have as good a chance as ever to survive and thrive.
In addition to being able to talk on the phone without worrying about minutes, nowadays you can also see each other with Skype and other forms of visual communication. Here are some tips to help you keep the love fires burning while you and your sweetie are apart.
1. Make plans. We’re not talking about plans to just see each other for a weekend. We’re talking about long-term plans – when one will move so that you can be together. There’s no need to rush it, but do start working on a plan.
2. Make rules. Although you should be able to call him/her at any time, don’t push it. People have to work, so set rules – no calls after 11 p.m. or before 8 a.m., unless it’s an emergency. Don’t call the office too much – you don’t want him/her to get in trouble. Try to stay on point – you don’t want a partner panicking because he/she hasn’t heard from you for a longer than usual time.
3. Be creative. Send notes or cards through snail mail (U.S. postal service). Packages from home of things that will remind him/her of something are cool – for instance, maybe he loved a hip-hop artist you saw together when he visited you in Atlanta. See if the artist has a CD and send it to him as a reminder of a good time you had together.
4. Enjoy the time you do have together without big expectations. Don’t expect every visit to be a whirlwind of activity. Spend quiet time together, too.
5. Make the effort. Treat it like a relationship. Through today’s technology, you can watch a movie together, play online games and of course be a little naughty now and then. There’s nothing wrong with a naughty text or surprising him/her with a scintillating video now and then. Just please be reasonable and send such things if you are sure you both are on the same page.
6. Be trusting. Be patient. Chances are you two aren’t together right now because you are still developing your bond and/or one of you has a job or family commitment. Don’t expect that person to account for every minute of his/her day. You both have lives away from each other and you need to live them until you can be together.
Don’t align yourself with someone you can’t trust. It will make you crazy and never work out. As with any other relationship, take the time to get to know each other and develop a real bond.