It’s not easy being single in today’s fast-paced world where it seems bad behavior is rewarded (as proven by all the reality shows focused on people doing non-constructive things). The bottom line, though, goes back to that old saying, “Actions speak louder than words.” What you do and especially what others see you do is a reflection on you and what people think of you.
If you are single, please refrain from the following:
• Go after someone that is not really available. First of all, you will be cheating yourself, as someone in a committed relationship already is not going to be able to provide the time and love that you deserve. Second of all, it’s just plain wrong. But you should also think about this: if he cheats on his wife, what makes you think he won’t cheat on you, too?
• Putting your life on hold. Don’t wait to pursue a job or a promotion or a college degree until you find someone. Set personal goals and go after them. You can buy a house or condo without a man. You can travel without a male companion. I know a lady who was almost 30 before she met the man she would eventually marry. She didn’t focus on meeting someone; she focused on herself. And the truth is… an independent, well-centered woman is indeed attractive to men of the same caliber.
• Settling. Don’t lose focus of your basic values just to have a date. He may be a hunk, but if he’s cheap or disrespectful, it’s only going to lead to disappointment.
• Not listening to your intuition. If it doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Women especially have incredible intuitions and need to listen to them.
• Question why you are still single. Just because all your girlfriends are married or hooked up doesn’t mean you should be, too. Maybe the timing isn’t right. Maybe the right one hasn’t come along. Maybe God wants you to focus on you for now.
It’s often true what they say about love: it comes when you least expect it. So enjoy your life now and before you know it, Mr. Right will show up.