If there’s one thing that successful people have in common, it’s that they are early risers. From GM’s CEO Dan Akerson to Tyler Perry Studios head honcho, Tyler Perry, it’s 5 a.m. or earlier! And you’d be amazed at what you can do before 9 a.m.
No matter what you do in life, no matter what you find yourself excelling at, there will always be a few people around who don’t get it. Maybe they don’t want to. Maybe they are envious. Maybe they are just plain ignorant.
The 4 Toxic Types To Avoid
1.Haters First, you have to recognize them for what they are. Let’s start with the hater. This is a person who provides feedback, but it’s soaked in negativity. He or she is not interested in offering you encouragement or a compliment. That’s the person who wants to hurt you. He or she doesn’t have to have a reason. It’s just the way they are and the best thing to do is block haters from your life. Block their emails, block their friend requests and look at the caller ID on your phone and don’t take their call. Avoid toxic people like drugs and just say “no.”
1. A Red Carpet Friend – You need a friend who will roll out the red carpet for you… Someone who thinks very highly of you and often times see more potential in you than you see in yourself… You can do no wrong in this person’s eyes… At least if you do they are not quick to tell you about it.They would rather pat you on the back and applaud you for the good things that you do. This person will always be there for you. You can count on them. Trusting them has never been an issue. The red carpet friend is so into you and whatever you do, like an SWV jingle. A red carpet friend is not to be confused with a stalker.
African-Americans live in a nation that may be considered the world’s fastest-paced society. Many liken it to the “microwave” society that consumes our thoughts and redirects our focus. The populace in this society is hard-wired to be able to access every impulse and instantly satisfy every whimsical desire. It makes sense that it is this way–given that most (but not all) of us are descendants of folks who were unwillingly transported to this country and forcibly assigned to lives of complete servitude to better the lives of others at our peril. We were the “children of a lesser God” who (like so much livestock) served as “beasts of burden” to those who did not value our lives.
World-renowned movie star, performer and producer Will Smith was asked once how he was able to stay fresh after decades in the business. He replied that he kept people around him that not only supported him and had his best interest at heart, they also challenged him.
When it comes to business, that same attitude should be in place. Friends are friends outside the realm of business. But often some friends don’t have any business being inside the circle when it comes to your own company.
Don’t get it twisted. No one should go it completely alone. But you have to keep the right company.
A business plan. An elevator pitch. A website. A means to track spending and profits. Time. Money. Sweat equity. None of these, however, means anything if you don’t know what kind of business you want to run.
Starting a business sounds scary, but before you can even do that you have to get past the first step, which is often the hardest (yet doesn’t require a single penny): figuring out exactly what you will found. The good news is two simple questions can provide you some answers right away—or at least give you a launch pad.
The first (Question #1) is asking yourself, What comes easy to you but harder to others? Take a moment to think about all the things you do well—better than most others. Certainly you have at least one or two things that you do particularly well, and which get other people to notice (and perhaps compliment you). What natural abilities do you have that you may be able to make a living doing?
If you were to be a fly on the wall of any locker room prior to a big game in any sport, you might be a little surprised to hear the abundance of encouraging and inspirational words going around in addition to actual, tactical strategy. A savvy coach knows how critical attitude can play into a game—more so than talent or skill in a given moment. Which is why any good strategy for setting a course for success must entail a tremendous amount of attention to attitude but how does one cultivate that perfect attitude? In all honesty, it’s easier said than done.
You must reject the Google & Gates Lie: “I have to be super smart and invent something the world relies on to be rich” and adopt an attitude that will support you as your ideas, no matter how small you think they are. I didn’t go through the normal chains of education. I wasn’t bogged down with thoughts of failure, and I wasn’t afraid to take a few calculated risks. My positive attitude helped me stay focused on fueled from the get-go. It also helped me to ignore people who told me I couldn’t do it, or that I’d be a failure soon enough. When people ask me how they, too, can work toward nourishing that same attitude and keep it moving upward minus the ego, I share my six tips to what I call “refining your character.” These six elements constitute the “constant energy” you must put into enhancing yourself and preserving your positive outlook. It’s no joke that your attitude is your control center. Someone “Anonymous” may be credited for saying, “The control center of your life is your attitude, but I wish I could claim that phrase because it’s just so darn true.”
Education and training is important; it’s the second component to “doing the knowledge.” And you have to have root knowledge, not branch knowledge. This means you can’t just skim the surface of a subject matter and suddenly become the master of it. Having a comprehensive knowledge requires digging deep, even if you are ahead of the game at the start with a bundle of natural skills for a particular subject. You can’t ever have too much knowledge, but you can have too little. And a little knowledge is usually dangerous. That’s when you’re likely to take too many uncalculated risks and enter a minefield ill-equipped.
You can acquire that knowledge in school or in life. Mentors and teachers come hugely in to play here. They often make for great cheerleaders, too.
Even the creams of the crop have coaches, teachers, and mentors. Famous singers have singing coaches. Olympic athletes have coaches. Actors have acting teachers. Bestselling authors have editors. We all need someone who can take our raw talent and transform it into polished talent. We also need people who can challenge our thinking, and get us to acknowledge a different perspective from time to time.
Confidence is the key to survival in today’s world. But too much can be as bad as too little. There must be a balance.
You have to believe in your own abilities and be sure that the road you have chosen to travel is the right one. Whether it’s the world of business or your personal life, self-confidence is a must.
Signs of a lack of confidence include a need to control everything and wearing designer clothes to prove your status. It’s a no brainer that that person will spend too much time and money hiding their lack of internal self-confidence. Wearing the trappings of success does not make you successful.