How To Maintain A Relationship While Following Your Dream

True-Love-FormYou’ve heard the expression, “It’s lonely at the top.” Well, that doesn’t have to be the case. It is possible to relentlessly pursue your dreams and goals while maintaining a healthy personal relationship. In fact, it is actually better for you psychologically and emotionally if there is someone who has your back and is there to share your joy as well.

Of course it won’t be easy. But here are some tips to help you…         Pages:2 3 4 5 6


  1. Virginia says

    These are great ways to nurture a relationship! I will add, though, that the most precious thing you can devote to your loved one is time.

    You have hit the nail on the head when you said sometimes all a person needs to do is vent. It’s like opening up a full closet, digging out everything to get to the back to find what it is the person needed from the closet. Venting does just that. And it’s a little easier to “clean up” venting than it is a rummaged closet. 😀

    The notes and “I love you’s,” and “Thinking of you” and texting all really work to nurture a relationship. My sister and her family each got a basic cell phone so they could text the father while he was at work, so that he could read his love notes while on break or lunch. (He was an electrician.)

    Hey! You know what’s really cool? Creating your own cards! If you know how to “Photoshop,” then you can lift pictures from the Internet, from your camera, from clip art, and from other sources to make collages on a document and then print it out on card stock paper. If you have a printer like Canon or HP, they each have how-to’s on their website to create these lovely thoughts!

    And don’t forget that doing the dishes also says, “I love you,” too! Make pigs in blankets! Be mindful when she puts on something slinky or that catches your eye, and give her a great compliment. And now I don’t notice shoes much, but there are lots of women who are very into shoes, so don’t forget to compliment her on her shoes, too!

    And when you listen, give her your full attention. Try not to think how to fix things. That’s instinctual to do so, I know. But try to refrain. It most often isn’t necessary to build up to finding a solution for her.

    If she asks for a solution, this is what you do: find out what she wants the end to look like. Ask her if there are things she wants you to do. If this requires a lot of planning time, then say so and pick a time to sit down and work on the problem. This is a good way to start.

    Perhaps your loved one talks a lot. There’s a way to deal with this, too. First, listen attentively, like before. Figure how much time you are able to spend, whether it is 10-15 minutes, or an hour or more. If you don’t have much time, listen as long as you can, then say that you need to be in a position to devote time to her needs, and suggest another, freer time to listen to her. Let her know you want to help her with her conundrum and give it the attention that deserves, and you can do that after [my report for work, the yard work, the painting, these phone calls, etc.] are done.

    I used to work as a cashier. I never had a very fast line (IMO). But people would always slide into my line, and I always had the longest line. I attribute this to my chatty mouth. I would look at the people and strike up a bit of gab while I checked them out. If there were a wait for a price check, then I would let the line know that I was waiting on it and that I will get to them as soon as possible. I think it really helped that I would pay attention to people and at least say hello. The gab would pass time they were standing, taking their attention off their feet and their watch. After I stopped working there, I had a following that lasted for several years since I had left that job.

  2. Miss Darden says

    I agree with the tips provided here and hope they can be applied to my current situation. I’m involved with a man and I’m confused on where we stand. He says a lot of supportive & nurturing things, but I’m not sure where his head is as far as relationships are concerned and if he has the long term in mind with me. I get mixed signals from him and this past weekend is an example. He went MIA: Thursday told me he was going home for the weekend (out of state), that night through Friday morning I was calling, left voicemail and text messages & haven’t heard back from him. His phone seems to be turned off….

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