If You Don’t Go Within You Go Without

It’s not always easy to invest in ourselves. There’s a lot at risk when we put ourselves out there emotionally, spiritually, and physically. However, these human elements are part of the success equation.


While we like to think, we are investing in ourselves every day, the truth to the matter is we don’t. All too often we let the poison of everyday life—the stress, the bills, the bosses, other people’s vision, and the craziness of a 24-7 society—take over and rot our motivation and inspiration to move closer to our goals and dreams. We don’t take time to read and learn new things; we don’t permit ourselves to have a time-out, so we can give back to ourselves through rest and relaxation; and we don’t stop to feed ourselves the kind, cheerful words we want to hear from that voice inside. Instead, we let life lull us into a robotic, semi-complacent state where we don’t have access to our dreams and goals. This is when you begin hearing “I can’t, I can’t,” play over and over again with no end in sight. I can’t go to the gym. I can’t start my own business. I can’t think about another career. I can’t get out of debt. I can’t go back to school. I can’t find my purpose. I can’t be rich. I can’… I can’t…

Here’s what I have to say about that: YES, YOU CAN. If you don’t go within, you go without. You deserve to get to where you want to be, period. Consider this: If your personal bank account is worth billions, imagine what you would be able to materialize in your outer world. But if your personal inventory is low—and you are not doing the things you love, guess what. You probably won’t be rich by any stretch of that world. Like the old, saying goes; life is not a dress rehearsal. This is the one life you are given so you best show up for yourself first. When I meet some people who get a little defensive when I ask them if they are happy and operating at 100 percent, and they brusquely respond, “Yeah, I’m happy,” I don’t believe them. And if they are not lying to themselves, they are lying to somebody. We all possess parts of ourselves that we would like to enhance. If not, we wouldn’t be human.

So here’s my message: Each day dedicate a percentage of yourself to your goals and dreams. Your consistency will add up over time. Remember, discipline weighs ounces but regrets weigh tons. In life, if you do not have discipline, you have nothing. People forget the power of focused discipline in the rut of life. Devoting a percentage of time to the vision you have for yourself can be as simple as going to a physical place that recharges your batteries and allows you to reflect. It’s where you concentrate on honing in on and paying attention to your talents and skills. It can be a favorite chair in your home, a bedroom, or at your corner café. This is a place where your thoughts roam free and where you’re not a prisoner of life. Much, to the contrary, you feel an incredible sense of empowerment, and the time seems appropriate to ask yourself those three questions:

Who am I?
What am I becoming?
Am I happy with who I am?

Succeed or fail. Live richly or live poorly.

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  1. Sherri says

    Great article! I am happy most of the time, but but honestly I haven’t been consistent in pursuing all of my goals, so I can definitely enhance my level of joy. It’s a new year, a new me…so this is the perfect time for me to journal my progress and actually reach my goals this year. Thanks for the inspiration!

  2. says

    I really appreciate you. Thank You for sharing your inspiration. It really made me think of how much we lack, even myself in investing in ourselves, and how this is a society and a growing society of people saying ”I CAN’T”! I completely agree with you that we need to invest in ourselves more, GOD BLESS YOU, DR. FARRAH, YOUR AN AMAZING PERSON!

  3. Dawn says

    I have worked since I was 13. Not afraid of work, but somewhere along the way lost my goals and ,yes, my happiness. This is just the push I need to get out of my rut. Thanks and pray to God I stick with it and quit just existing, but living!

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